9/19/15

4 tips to deal with a demanding professional life


Explore the reason

Remember, most people work manic hours by compulsion. If your husband is spending inordinately long hours working, ask him what's prompting him to do so. Explore if he's battling unrealistic deadlines, lacks certain skills or is unable to say no. Once you are able to figure out the real reason, look at addressing it together.

See it as a transition

There are two contexts to this challenge. If his long hours are a recent phenomenon, it could be an impending deadline and may pass. So there's no cause for worry. But if it is something else, a carefully thought out action plan that includes dealing with internal fears, getting more support, building confidence will help him recover his work-life balance. Treat it as a transitional phase, focussing on the solution instead of the problem.

Clarify the expectation

Ask yourself if your husband is aware of your feelings. Share your emotions, without the undertone of blame. Revisit the goals/dreams you had shared earlier. Discuss what you both need to do to achieve them and the way you can support each other in doing so.

Support, don't nag

Nagging will get your partner's back up. And if he worries about friction at home it may be a disincentive to return at a decent time. It's likely that he's frustrated due to his long working hours. Rather, explore ways in which you can be more plesant and supportive.

SOURCE - wonderwoman.intoday

STRESS MANAGEMENT FOR YOUTH


 Source - employment news


9/15/15

5 things that a lady wants in her date



Most men and women are still trying to crack what works and what doesn't, for the opposite sex. Despite the grand assortment of tips and advice being offered by the Internet, magazines and best friends, we follow our hearts and make our own mistakes. Dating is not for the faint hearted, but when you find 'the one', it's all well worth the madness. 

In the meantime, it helps to know what the opposite sex is thinking...sitting across the table, on a date.

So here are the top 5 things that a lady wants in her date...

1. If you're calling it a date, dress for it!
It's the first opportunity to get to know each other and since both of you have been courageous enough to call it a date, it's definitely a special occasion. A guy who knows what looks good on him and carries it off with modesty and charm, is a huge turn on for any girl.

What a man wears should enhance his personality, not distract from it. It's great if you have biceps worth showing off, but a date is hardly the occasion to flaunt them from under a body hugging t-shirt.

Best to get some advice from a close friend on what to wear, just to be safe. If you don't feel charming, you won't be it!

Needless to say, body odor of the slightest kind is a total deal breaker.

2. Some chivalry would be nice
Getting her a drink, holding that door open and dropping her home, have absolutely nothing to do with a girl's independence. Don't let anyone tell you differently. Of course she can do all that herself! But the charm of being on a date, or even in a relationship for that matter, is to feel cared for. The expectation for chivalry is hard wired into every girl's psyche and it's a great turn on if done moderately and effortlessly. Every door doesn't need to be held open and every chair doesn't need to be pulled out for her. But on a date...absolutely!

3. Say what you mean and mean what you say
A guy with an intellect and humility is a sure shot, guaranteed turn on for any girl. And usually, it takes a girl less than 10 minutes to figure out if the guy across the table has these qualities working in his favour or otherwise. Men who brag about their achievements or the net worth of their father's business, don't stand a chance against those who share their thoughts and are genuinely interested in hearing about their date's. What really helps is if you stick to a language you're comfortable with. Grammatical mistakes and SMS abbreviations in spoken language are hilarious not endearing.

4. Don't be shy
Be generous with compliments and praise. In fact, most women appreciate that quality in men. But the key is to be genuine. That's what makes a man stand out. An honest "I really enjoyed this and would love to see you more" or a "You have a gorgeous smile" is a zillion times better than any pick up line in the world. A guy who speaks his mind and spells out how he wants to take things forward wins hands down, as long as he doesn't enter the creepy zone. Additional brownies for a guy who manages to steer clear of the "Let's be friends" zone and goes straight for the "I want to date you" target.

5. Puhleeezz be yourself
Because when you try to be someone you're not, you're being a clown. Everyone has flaws. Everyone has had moments they're not proud of and most of us don't have smashing looks. Wait a minute...doesn't that put us all in the same boat? It's a big turn on for a girl to see a guy who is confident, sincere and unpretentious. If you don't put on a fake accent, assert yourself unnecessarily over restaurant staff and come dipped in cologne sporting a fake Rado, chances are you'll actually get a smile from the girl across the table. It's not so hard to just be your normal self.
SOURCE - TOI 

Are you a shy guy trying to find a date?


They might be the top-notch guys in their professional fields, but going on a date or even finding a date makes them tongue-tied and extremely nervous. If you fall in this category, there is a friendly advice for you...

Interpret her signals correctly

Women are not going to come up to you and ask for your phone number. That's just not the way it works. But, if you know what to look for, she will give you some subtle signals, which are her way telling you "hey buddy, I'm interested in you, come here and talk to me".

The first thing you need to know is this...

Women don't do ANYTHING by accident. If a woman is located at a certain part of the bar or club there is a reason for it. So, the next time you're out, if you notice a woman in your proximity that wasn't there a second ago there's a good chance it's not an accident and she's interested in you.

Another thing to look for is preening or grooming. When a woman notices a guy she's interested in, she'll often unconsciously fix her hair, grab a glance at herself in the mirror, or fix her clothes in some other way.

Go easy and slow

You can't be a wall flower all night and then when you see the girl you got the hots for, go up and approach her and expect things to go great.

So here's what you do. The next time you're going to be at a venue where there are women you might be interested in, before you even consider talking to them or even looking in their direction, start off by talking to some of the other people around you.

Build your skills

A lot of guys approach a woman with the goal in mind of getting her phone number, or getting a date with her, or making her their next girlfriend.

They see how pretty she is and all sorts of things like this go through their heads and they inevitably psyche themselves out.

They become way too outcome dependent. And worst of all, by doing this, they appear too needy to the women and the game is over before it even begins. When you shift your thinking by changing the outcome that you're looking for women will be able to pick up on it. You won't appear needy and you'll inevitably start to become more attractive.

Handle rejection with grace

Most guys make a woman's response to them mean something about them personally. A woman acts bitchy or cold to them and they make it mean something about them as a man.

When a woman "rejects" you, it actually has nothing to do with you. It wasn't YOU she rejected It was just you're approach. You used the wrong particular approach. it's nothing personal. How could it be she doesn't know you from a hole in the wall, right? So be grateful for her feedback whether positive or negative and never take it personal.

Play a game you can win

Overall, the club and bar scene can be pretty intimidating to pick up women. Women go out to these places, and because they're getting hit on all night and because their friends are around, they're ten times more likely to reject a guy who tries to approach them.

If you know what you're doing... there is no other place to meet women as quickly and as easily as Social Networking sites. There are a few reasons for this: Because her friends aren't around watching her, other guys aren't hitting her and she's in the comfort of her own home she's SO much more receptive to you if you say the right thing to her. There is absolutely ZERO chance of ever encountering a face-to-face rejection.

SOURCE- TOI

बिना काम किए थकावट लगती है?

अगर आपने ऑफिस या घर में बहुत ज्यादा काम किया है और उसके कारण आपको थकान का अनुभव हो रहा है, तो कोई चिंता की बात नहीं है, लेकिन अगर बिना कोई काम किए ही हर वक्त आपको थकान का अनुभव हो रहा है, तो फिर इस बारे में आपको गंभीरता से सोचना होगा. थकान का शारीरिक और मानसिक अनुभव कोई भयंकर बीमारी का संकेत नहीं है, बल्कि ऊर्जा के स्तर की हमारे शरीर में कमी है. ऊर्जा का शरीर में कम होना कई वजहों से हो सकता है. इसलिए बस खान-पान और अपनी जीवनशैली पर ध्यान देने की जरूरत है. 

जितना हो सके फिजिकल एक्टिविटी करते रहें. फिजिकल एक्टिविटी शरीर की एनर्जी को बूस्ट करती है. आजकल की लाइफ स्टाइल की सबसे बड़ी दिक्कत यही है कि लोग फिजिकल एक्टिविटी बहुत कम कर रहे हैं, जिस वजह से बहुत सारी दिक्कतें सामने आ रही हैं. अगर आप चाहते हैं कि आप हमेशा ऊर्जावान बने रहें, तो इसके लिए आपको रोजाना एक्सरसाइज या फिर योग करना होगा. अगर आपकी उम्र 40 साल या उसके आसपास की है, तब तो फिजिकल एक्टिविटी और भी ज्यादा जरूरी हो जाती है. 

इसके अलावा खानपान में गड़बड़ होने से भी थकान का अहसास होता है. इसके लिए खूब सारा पानी पीएं. शरीर अगर डिहाइड्रेटेड होगा, तो भी थकान का अनुभव होगा. कैफीनयुक्त पदार्थो का सेवन न करें. दिन में दो बार चाय-कॉफी पीने से शरीर की ऊर्जा का स्तर बढ़ता है और मेंटल अलर्टनेस भी बढ़ती है, पर इसे इससे ज्यादा मात्र में पीने से शरीर पर इसका नकारात्मक प्रभाव पड़ने लगता है. 

तीसरी जरूरी बातें नींद से जुड़ी हैं. रोज कम-से-कम आठ घंटे की नींद जरूर लें. रात में सोते वक्त चाय-कॉफी का सेवन न करें, तो ही अच्छा है क्योंकि इससे नींद पर बुरा प्रभाव पड़ता है. खाने के बाद भी कैफीन का सेवन न करें. नींद न आने पर स्लिपिंग पिल्स भी न सें. प्राकृतिक तरीके से सोने की कोशिश करें. 

बात पते की..

- सुबह के वक्त पौष्टिक नाश्ता करने से ऊर्जा का स्तर बना रहा है. इसलिए नाश्ते में अंकुरित अनाज, होलग्रेन ब्रेड जैसी चीजें खाएं. 

- काम के चक्कर में खाना न भूल जाएं. खाना नहीं खायेंगे, तो ब्लड शुगर का स्तर गिर सकता है. वक्त पर खाना खाएं ताकि ऊर्जा बरकरार रहे.
SOURCE - prabhatkhabar

5 IMPORTANT THINGS TO DO BEFORE STARTING YOUR DAY

The idea of waking up on the wrong side of the bed is all about perception. You can always have a good day, despite whatever life throws at us. Sometime’s it’s a bit too much to handle – but you always keep going. Here are a few simple tips on how to set your day up for success.

 1. Make Your Bed

made-bed
Starting off your day with organization sets you up for success! Like the saying goes: Organize your environment and your mind will follow. It’s an easy thing to skip, and most of us don’t see the point in making a bed that will just get slept in that night.

When the first thing you do is clean your space, you’re more likely to continue that action. How you do anything is how you do everything – because everything is a fractal of everything else.
Ensure that you’ll have a great day by setting yourself up for one. Put the action forth to keep yourself in motion – you’ll truly feel the difference. 

8 Reasons Why You Don't Have Money

Before you decide to hate me, understand I know what it’s like to be broke, and worse than being broke I know what it’s like to just barely get by month after month.

Two hundred and fifty million people in the wealthiest country on the planet are barely making it. I am not talking about the people on food stamps or unemployment, I am talking about people making an average of $48,000 to $68,000 annually. Consider that almost 75 percent of all Americans are living paycheck to paycheck.

In 2013, a person making $63,000 (before taxes) spent an average of $49,000 to $51,000 on housing, transportation, food, insurance, entertainment, childcare, health care and other expenditures. Take 20 percent out of that formula for taxes and you have no money left over for savings or investments.

9/14/15

सास-बहू की खट्टी-मीठी नोंकझोंक को कुछ इस तरह से बना सकते हैं आसान



जब एक नई बहू ससुराल आती है तो उसके मन में सास के बर्ताव को लेकर डर बना रहता है। सास भी यही सोचती है कि नई बहू से मेरी पटेगी या नहीं। लोगों की नजर में यह रिश्ता बड़ा जटिल है, लेकिन बहू अपनी सास को मां और सास अपनी बहू को बेटी मान लें तो यह रिश्ता काफी प्यारा हो सकता है। इसके संबंध में रिलेशनशिप एक्सपर्ट डॉ रूमी अग्रवाल ने कुछ टिप्स भी दिए...

हक न जताएं
सास अपने बेटे और बहू अपने पति पर बराबर का हक जताती हैं। इस बात से तकरार बढ़ना शुरू हो जाता है।

क्या करे बहू- आपकी सास ने इतने सालों तक आपके पति को पाला है, उसकी हर छोटी-बड़ी जरूरत का पूरा ध्यान रखा है। जैसे आपकी मां आपसे प्यार करती है, वैसे ही सास अपने बेटे (यानी आपके पति) से प्यार करती है। उनका प्यार कम करने का कोशिश न करें।

सास क्या करे- आपकी बहू जिस एक आदमी के लिए अपने माता-पिता और घर को छोड़कर अाई है वह आपका बेटा है। वह उसी के प्यार और सहारे से खुद को नए माहौल में एडजस्ट करेगी। बहू और बेटे को रिश्ता बढ़ाने के लिए स्पेस देना भी बहुत जरूरी है।

दखलंदाजी हो तब
घरेलू कामों को लेकर एक-दूसरे पर नुक्ताचीनी करने या दखलंदाजी होने पर बात बिगड़ती जाती है।

क्या करे बहू
आप जिस परिवार में गई हैं, वह आपके लिए नया है। हो सकता है वहां के नियम-कायदे आपके घर से अलग हों। उन्हें समझें और उनमें ढलने की कोशिश करें। सास के तजुर्बे का लाभ लें। पुरानी आदतें एकदम छूटेंगी नहीं, लेकिन उन पर अड़िग भी न रहें।
सास क्या करे
नई बहू पर एकदम भारी जिम्मेदारियां न थोपें। उसे घर के माहौल को समझने का मौका दें। हो सकता है वह कुछ गलतियां करे, उसे नजरअंदाज करें। आप उसे मां बनकर सिखाएंगी तो वह जल्दी सीख पाएगी। प्यार से किसी को जल्दी अपनाया जा सकता है

जब हो मतभेद
कुछ बातों को लेकर कहासुनी हो जाना भी सामान्य बात है। इस झगड़े के कारणों को जानकर उनमें सुधार करना चाहिए।

क्या करे बहू
अपनी सास के प्रति हमेशा रिसपेक्टफुल बर्ताव करें। मायके में सास की चुगली न करें। सास को अपना नजरिया समझाएं और उनसे उनकी आपत्तियों का कारण भी समझें। किसी बीचवान की मदद लेने के बजाय घर की बात घर पर ही निपटाएं।
सास क्या करे
बहू को अपनी बेटी समझकर माफ कर दें। उसकी बातों को समझें, हो सकता है उसके कहने का तरीका गलत हो, लेकिन उसकी बात तार्किक हो। उससे जैसा व्यवहार करेंगी वह उसी अंदाज में आपको उत्तर देगी। उसमें अपनी बेटी को तलाशें
यह करें
  1. रिश्ते में मिठास लाने के लिए एक-दूसरे के साथ समय बिताएंं।
  2. घर के कामों में एक- दूसरे की मदद करें दोनों परिवारों की तुलना या आलोचना न करें।
  3. एक-दूसरे का सम्मान करें कामों को लेकर एक- दूसरे की प्रशंसा करें।
  4. एक-दूसरे को प्रतियोगी बिल्कुल न समझें।
source - bhasker

8 signs that you are a compulsive flirt!



You are known as a big flirt by your friends because you cannot help but appreciate the beautiful faces around at all times. Remember - kisi ke baal ache hain to kisi aankhein, kisi ke honth ache hain to kisi ki baatein! You might try hard but you always end up doing a few things inevitably every time you're out at a happening party or just a casual social gathering! We list out 8 signs that will confirm if you are a compulsive flirt or not!


1. You are always ready with an 'ice-breaker': 'Hey Senorita, I'm Raj...naam to suna hoga!


2. You love to flaunt yourself! You got a hot body and you make no bones about showing it off. You always know what to wear at the right place and at the right time!


3. You exactly know how to attract attention. Raising your decibel to make a point and there you grab all the eyeballs!


4. Your conversation is flooded with "oh" "Wow" "Me too ya" "Same here" "I would love to"...and everything that says "I'm kinda similar to you baby..."


5. You're always ready with a Tsumani of compliments.


6. Oh-that-touch! That little elbow brush, gentle tapping or just playing footsie under the table...you waste absolutely no time in establishing that mild physical contact.



7. You know exactly how to 'Glance'. You can arrest him/her with that one deep look!

8. Introducing that 'xxx' word in your conversation by default! "Did you hear that joke...oh well, it's a little 'non-veg'. Do you mind if I read it out."

Source - TOI

फर्टिलिटी की समस्या दूर करने के लिए पुरुष खा सकते हैं ये 7 चीजें


शादी से पहले बहुत से पुरुष अपनी आगे की लाइफ को लेकर चिंतित रहते हैं। उनकी ये चिंता सिर्फ फाइनेंशियल ही नहीं, बल्कि फिजिकल भी होती है। उनकी ये समस्या फर्टिलाइजेशन से जुड़ी होती है। उन्हें ये अंदेशा होता है कि बेहतर परफॉर्म कर पाएंगे या नहीं। टेंशन, बिजी शेड्यूल और खराब लाइफस्टाइल के चलते अक्सर उनके दिमाग में ऐसी बातें आती रहती हैं। तो ज्यादा सोचने और घबराने की जरूरत नहीं, बस रोजाना की आदतों में और खासतौर पर खान-पान में बदलाव लाकर इस टेंशन को दूर किया जा सकता है। नाश्ते से लेकर लंच और डिनर में इन फ्रूट्स, स्नैक्स और वेजिटेबल को शामिल कर फर्टिलाइजेशन को बना सकते हैं बेहतर।

1.पानी : पानी बॉडी से सारी बेकार की चीजों को बहुत ही आसानी से बाहर निकाल देता है। स्पर्म की क्वालिटी बेहतर बनाने और उनकी संख्या बढ़ाने के लिए जितना ज्यादा मात्रा में पानी पिएंगे, उतना ही अच्छा रहेगा। पानी बेहतरीन टॉक्सिक के रूप में काम करता है।

2.लहसुन : लहसुन में पाया जाने वाला एलिसन पुरुषों के बॉडी में ब्लड सर्कुलेशन को सही रखने के साथ ही जननांगों में भी प्रॉपर ब्लड सर्कुलेशन को बनाए रखता है। लहसुन सेक्स हार्मोन को भी कंट्रोल करता है। लहसुन में विटामिन बी -6 और सेलेनियम मौजूद होता है, जो स्पर्म को बेहतर बनाने के लिए जरूरी है।

3.अंडा : अंडे में विटामिन ई होता है जो पुरुषों की फर्टिलिटी को बढ़ाने के साथ ही स्पर्म की क्वालिटी को भी बढ़ाता है। इसके अलावा इसमें मौजूद एंटी-ऑक्सीडेंट जनानांगो के सेल्स को एक्टिव बनाए रखते हैं

4.केले : केले में सेक्स हार्मोन को कंट्रोल करने की क्षमता होती है, क्योंकि इसमे ब्रोमलेन एंजाइम होता है। केले में स्पर्म प्रोडक्शन को बढ़ाने वाले और सेक्स पावर में सुधार करने वाले विटामिन ए, बी 1 और सी भरपूर मात्रा में होता है

5.पालक : फोलिक एसिड की पर्याप्त से भरपूर पालक स्पर्म की संख्या को बढ़ाने और उन्हें मजबूत बनाने का काम करता है। साथ ही स्पर्म की स्पीड को भी बखूबी बनाए रखता है।

6.फ्रूट सलाद : मौसमी फलों का रोजाना सेवन सेक्स लाइफ के लिए जरूरी माना जाता है। स्पर्म की बढ़ोत्तरी और उन्हें हेल्दी बनाने के लिए एंटी-ऑक्सीडेंट और फोलिक एसिड से भरपूर फलों को खाना सही रहेगा। स्ट्रॉबेरी, संतरे और चेरी जैसे फल सेक्स हेल्थ के लिए अच्छे माने जाते हैं। रोजाना नाश्ते में फ्रूट सलाद लेने से पुरुषों की फर्टिलिटी में सुधार होता है।

7.अनार : अनार एंटी-ऑक्सीडेंट का खजाना होता है, इसलिए वह शुक्राणुओं को नुकसान पहुंचाने के लिए जिम्मेदार मेलोनडीएलडीहएडे की मात्रा को हमारे शरीर में कम कर देता है। नियमित अंतराल पर अनार को भोजन में शामिल करने से शुक्राणु की क्वालिटी में सुधार होने क साथ यौनशक्ति भी बढ़ती है।
Source - bhasker

21 signs you're mentally stronger than average

log training seal school(Seaman Blake Midnight/Navy Visual News Service) Mental strength training is just as hard — or harder — than physical training.Mental strength takes a long time to develop. 
It is the daily practice of pushing yourself to grow stronger, maintaining realistic optimism, and setting healthy boundaries. Mentally strong people don't do things like waste time feeling sorry for themselves or give away their power to other people.
How do you know where you fall on the spectrum? We asked psychotherapist Amy Morin, the author of "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do."
Morin shared the following 21 signs you're mentally stronger than average, which we've listed here in her words:
1. You balance emotions with logic.
Mentally strong people understand how their emotions can influence their thinking. In an effort to make the best decisions possible, they balance their emotions with logic.  
2. You choose productive behavior.
While it may be tempting to make excuses, complain about other people, and avoid difficult circumstances, mentally strong people refuse to waste time on unproductive activities. 
3. You feel confident in your ability to adapt to change.
Mentally strong people know that although change is uncomfortable, it's tolerable. They focus their energy on adapting to change, rather than resisting it.
4. You face the fears that hold you back.
While mentally strong people don't need to conquer fears because they have something to prove to others, they do strive to face the fears that hold them back. 
5. You learn from your mistakes.
Mentally strong people don't hide or excuse their mistakes. Instead, they learn from them.
6. You balance self-acceptance with self-improvement.
Mentally strong people accept themselves for who they are, while simultaneously recognizing their need for personal development. 
crowd cheering confetti(Flickr / Joe Van) Be happy when others succeed.7. You genuinely celebrate other people's success.
Mentally strong people cooperate — rather than compete — with those around them. They don't feel as though other people's success somehow diminishes their own achievements.
8. You are comfortable living according to your values.
Mentally strong people make decisions with relative ease because they understand their priorities and they live according to their values. 
9. You focus on sharpening your skills, rather than showing them off.
While some people seek validation from others, mentally strong people are less concerned about gaining recognition. Instead, they're intrinsically motivated to become better. 
10. You live an authentic life.
Mentally strong people are true to themselves. Their words are in line with their behavior.
11. You view life's hardships as opportunities for growth.
While hardship causes some people to grow bitter, mentally strong people let adversity make them better.
12. Your self-worth depends on who you are, not what you achieve.
Mentally strong people feel good about themselves, whether they win or lose.
boston marathon winner 2015(Jim Rogash/Stringer/Getty Images) Remember, it's a marathon, not a sprint.
13. You practice delayed gratification.
Mentally strong people view their goals as a marathon, not a sprint. They're willing to tolerate short-term pain when it can provide long-term gain.
14. You bounce back from failure.
Mentally strong people don't view failure as the end of the road. Instead, they use their failed attempts as opportunities to gain knowledge that will increase their chances of success in the future.
15. You're a realistic optimist.
Mentally strong people are able to look for the silver lining and think on the bright side, but they don't allow their optimistic tendencies to blind them to reality.
16. You accept personal responsibility for your choices.
Mentally strong people don't needlessly beat themselves up, but they do accept complete responsibility for their actions. 
17. You express gratitude.
Rather than exclaim they need more, mentally strong people acknowledge they have more than they need.
18. You focus on what you can control.
Mentally strong people are effective and productive in life because they devote their resources to the things they can control.
19. You engage in active problem-solving.
Mentally strong people don't dwell on the problem — instead, they create solutions.
20. You're open to learning more from all that surrounds you.
Mentally strong people are constantly learning from their circumstances and the people they encounter every day. 
21. You work on your weaknesses, rather than masking them.
While many people work hard to disguise their vulnerabilities, mentally strong people invest their energy into improving their shortcomings.
SOURCE - YAHOO

9/13/15

5 Mistakes I Made With Money (And How I Am Correcting Them)

My career path has had lots of twists, blind turns, steep climbs, and sharp drops. This is also true as far as my financial state goes. I made a few key mistakes before I finally understood what is financial responsibility.

As someone who has learnt about money management and investing the hard way, I want to share my lessons with you by talking about the five biggest mistakes that I made when it comes to money.

Mistake#1: Not planning my career path effectively

We Indians as students are normally obsessed with becoming either a doctor or an engineer. At 17, I ran the medical entrance race but lost. Since then from graduation to MBA, my qualifications have not really been a result of well thought out career plans. The only thing I was aware of was that I was good at communication.

It might be safe to say that focusing on my core competency from the very beginning and working on entering a field of my interest (which I finally managed), would have put me in a far superior position financially.